#TheSW30 Day 6: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”


I am on day 6 already of the single woman’s 30 day blogging challenge: Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

Love life as defined by Merriam Webster is about a person’s romantic and sexual activities and relationships. While life is defined as the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death; love is more complex.

I remembered a person whom I have met in the year 2014; I will hide him by the name San Pedro. He once answered a question about “What is love?” His answer was, “Salamat sa mga comments. I will do consider doing some of it. I received one question though (and as promised, his identity will not be revealed):

Question: “What is love?”

San Pedro: Love does not exist in Mathematics. In Physiology, love is an abstract concept with contradicting findings in scientific literature. As I have told you, concepts with mathematical proof is a step in becoming a scientific truth. So if love exists… You be the judge… Math and Physiology-wise, they don’t… (Though, I’m not an expert in this topic!).

There are many comments that came along after he posted the question.

A. Nora: Hahaha.. natatawa po ako dito.:))

B. Pacifi: Love is the readiness to get hurt! Ha ha ha! #hugotnohugot

C. Nora: Haha..i-CPC na yan doc Coco. #Hugotpamore. Love is food and love is med.:))

D. Renzo: Sino naman nagtanung nun? anyways..wala po talaga love sa math..kaya hirap na hirap po ang students hanapin ang value ng x eh..kasi walang value ang mga x eh..#hugot

E. Andre: This is a major call for a global conference since it’s pandemic.

F. PLM: (Laughing emoji repeated three times)

G. Jaia: Hindi matanggap ni Manci, na walang value ang X. #Akala mo lang wala, pero meron, meron! HAHAHA.- C. Elefante

H. PLM: ^ hahaha

I. Nora: Basta usapang ganito, mabilis magreact ang tao. Hahaha.. Yan tayo eh.:)) #WhoGoatPls

In as much as I was entertained by the answers to the query, it is true enough that love is an abstract thing, can be existing in thought or as an idea but not having a physical or concrete existence; but sex is concrete. They say, abstract love is better than no love at all. It is so complex yet a wonderful intricate in a person’s heart. They say that the ancient Greeks used seven words to define the different states of love. These are the following:

Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family.

Philia: the love that you have for friends.

Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)

Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love

Ludus: this is playful love, like childish love or flirting.

Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.

Philautia: the love of the self (negative or positive)

These are seven different kind of feelings: Storge, Philia, Eros, Agape, Ludus, Pragma and Philautia. In this life, people feel different emotions for different situations and individuals, as depicted from Hufftington post by Adrian Catron’s What is love? A Philosophy of life.

Well, to mark it off.. I believe that love exists. In tennis as a sport, love exists even if it is zero. Though one theory claims the term is a corruption of the French l’oeuf (“the egg”) to describe the shape of the number zero, the Oxford English Dictionary suggests that love really does mean “love.” The only thing keeping a scoreless player on the court is the love of the game.
To answer the question that every woman has the exact love life she wants, I disagree with the given statement. Love is an involvement of more than one person. If mathematically calculated, it is equivalent to one plus one plus plus one equals three (1+1+1=3), which is really equivalent to one (1, if God is added, as what I’ve learned from Janetteikz, a poet who wrote the P4CM’s I will wait for you. If romantically speaking, love I believe is a synergy of two beings. One male and one female plus God. I believe in heterosexuality, that a man is born for a woman under God’s covering.

It is not just for a woman to decide alone in a relationship, because the male or the man should be the leader. No woman wants to be in a relationship with a man whom she can push over all around or a man she does not respect. She wants to be led. It is because leadership in love is a necessity. Love is pivotal in a family, which they will both build in the future, which is portrayed like an umbrella covering a smaller umbrella and another smaller umbrella. It is to be decided that the male should be the leader covering his wife, not the other way around. That is why, males should be covered by God’s grace in order for him to do this. It entails a supernatural power to be able to give love with no fear and no pretensions and no selfish reasons.

God, I believe is not killjoy when it comes to relationships. He knows what each of us wants and He knows what each of us needs. But then, I admire men who can lead their wives despite them facing the art of war in love, even though God gave us the freewill to decide whom to have a relationship with and whom to marry. God gave us the gift of freewill, the freedom to choose between good or evil. Now, to which side do you belong?