What Are the Effects of Too Much Attention?

By: Lily Ruha

February 22, 2021 from infobloom.com

The effects of too much attention, whether on relationships or life problems, are generally negative and counterproductive. Although healthy relationships require a certain degree of attention, one partner’s excessive focus on the other may create emotional imbalances in the relationship. Similarly, children who receive too much praise or too many gifts may develop personality issues. Attention is also a factor in mental illnesses like depression, neurosis, and anxiety, with an extreme focus on uncontrollable or inconsequential matters. Stalking and harassment are extreme behaviors characterized by too much attention given to people who do not want it.

In a healthy relationship, attentiveness is characterized by a set of moderate behaviors. Each partner listens to the other, showing interest in the thoughts, feelings, and passions of the other. It is a mutual relationship in which respect, love, and attention are shared in healthy amounts. Too much attention in a relationship of equals is characterized by extreme gift giving, excessive communication, and intense affection. A partner who is unable or unwilling to reciprocate may feel manipulated, smothered, or repulsed enough to exit the relationship altogether.

Giving too much attention to people who do not want it may be considered stalking or sexual harassment. Celebrities may become victims of this type of behavior when fans violate their privacy by following them around, camping outside their homes, or entering their living space without permission. In general, inappropriate remarks about someone’s physical appearance, unwanted affection, and sexual innuendo all may fall into the category of harassment.

Parents and teachers also are faced with determining how much attention is too much. Constantly praising a child, letting him know how smart he is, and tending to his every wish may prevent him from developing necessary life skills. Praise is best when limited to displays of courage or successful completion of challenging tasks. Constant gift giving is problematic for children because it does not teach them to work and wait for what they want. While it’s important to meet children’s needs, too much attention to their wants may perpetuate the constant demand for more.

Many mental illnesses also involve the problem of excessive attention. A depressed person may constantly focus on past disappointments. Individuals with intense anxiety may worriedly and repeatedly review the details of an upcoming event or encounter. People with neurosis, a condition characterized by repetitive thoughts and actions, may give too much attention to insignificant matters or tasks they have already completed. The effects of excessive attention in these conditions are personal discomfort and dissatisfaction.

My thoughts:

There are those people like me, who have a tendency of misinterpreting too much attention given by those around me. Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to be in the spotlight sometimes, but that is during competitions only. I don’t normally enjoy too much attention from people. But, I’d love to be noticed sometimes. More often than not, I feel like I’m just in a bubble or invincible to those around me. I don’t normally attract attention from people. You can notice that in my social media posts. Although, I am quite an actress and a performer too. I am a frustrated theater artist.

Back in high school. I would love to join our high school plays, and portray roles in theater. But, I did not take the opportunity because I live far away from school, and the modes of transportation that time have curfews. To be in theater is one of my frustrations back when I was young. I do remember one time, I played the role of “Portia” from William Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice, but it was just on classroom for the English Subject Requirement.

Thankfully, it was compensated when I entered college. I joined “The Literary and Performing Arts Guild”, and “The Artiste Guild’s Teatro and Chorale”. I joined declamation and oration contests back then. It was fun.

To join a beauty pageant was one of my frustrations too. Although, I’ve joined one time a “Mutya ng Camp” when I was Grade 6 and won the title. I still feel regretful to not have not experienced one in highschool. One time in highschool, I was asked to join the pageant by some of my friends who are in the student council, but I was too young. I did not join. Maybe, I can answer the Q and A, but I was not that confident enough to wear a bikini. Because, I am not that sexy enough way back then. haha! I’m such a nerd.

Moving on, I am still grateful for the opportunities given to me in the past and even at present. I may not have everything that I want in life, but I’m grateful for all the experiences that I had.

What is a song?

According to Sasha Blakeley, at its most basic, a song is a short piece of music, usually with words. It combines melody and vocals, although some composers have written instrumental pieces, or musical works without words, that mimic the quality of a singing voice. The words of a song are called lyrics. Lyrics can include a series of verses, the longer sections of the song that tell the story, and a refrain, a short phrase repeated at the end of every verse. Songs can have a simple structure of one or two verses, or a more complex one with multiple verses and refrains. Songs usually have a meter or beat. Whether you sing or speak the lyrics, you can feel a pattern or pulse in the way the words move the song forward.

The word ‘song’ has been around for a very long time, and it connects back to Old English and Old Norse languages. As such a history suggests, songs are used for many purposes: to tell stories, express emotions, or convey a belief in faith. Sometimes they give instructions or help make difficult, repetitive work a little less tiresome.

A song is a composition made up of lyrics and music, with the intent of the lyrics being sung, for the purpose of producing a proportionate feeling or emotion in relation to a particular matter. A good song produces proportionate feelings relative to a given matter or experience; while a bad song on the other hand is a song which combines a feeling that, for one reason or another, is not worthy of or proportionate to the matter at hand.

As what Jon Guerra depicted in his article about “What is a song, anyway?”, a song is a composition made up of lyrics and music, with the intent of the lyrics being sung, for the purpose of producing a proportionate feeling or emotion in relation to a particular matter. Generally speaking, lyrics reference topics and melodies reference feelings (though a beautifully constructed lyric can reference feelings as much as any beautiful melody). 

As the famous adage says, where words fail, music speaks.

What is the difference between music and song?


Music is an art form and cultural activity whose medium is sound organized in time. General definitions of music include common elements such as pitch (which governs melody and harmony), rhythm (and its associated concepts tempo, meter, and articulation), dynamics (loudness and softness), and the sonic qualities of timbre and texture (which are sometimes termed the “color” of a musical sound). Different styles or types of music may emphasize, de-emphasize or omit some of these elements. Music is performed with a vast range of instruments and vocal techniques ranging from singing to rapping; there are solely instrumental pieces, solely vocal pieces (such as songs without instrumental accompaniment) and pieces that combine singing and instruments. The word derives from Greek μουσική (mousike; “art of the Muses”).

In its most general form, the activities describing music as an art form or cultural activity include the creation of works of music (songs, tunes, symphonies, and so on), the criticism of music, the study of the history of music, and the aesthetic examination of music. Ancient Greek and Indian philosophers defined music as tones ordered horizontally as melodies and vertically as harmonies. Common sayings such as “the harmony of the spheres” and “it is music to my ears” point to the notion that music is often ordered and pleasant to listen to. However, 20th-century composer John Cage thought that any sound can be music, saying, for example, “There is no noise, only sound.”The creation, performance, significance, and even the definition of music vary according to culture and social context. Indeed, throughout history, some new forms or styles of music have been criticized as “not being music”, including Beethoven’s Grosse Fuge string quartet in 1825, early jazz in the beginning of the 1900s and hardcore punk in the 1980s. There are many types of music, including popular music, traditional music, art music, music written for religious ceremonies and work songs such as chanteys. Music ranges from strictly organized compositions–such as Classical music symphonies from the 1700s and 1800s, through to spontaneously played improvisational music such as jazz, and avant-garde styles of chance-based contemporary music from the 20th and 21st centuries.

In many cultures, music is an important part of people’s way of life, as it plays a key role in religious rituals, rite of passage ceremonies (e.g., graduation and marriage), social activities (e.g., dancing) and cultural activities ranging from amateur karaoke singing to playing in an amateur funk band or singing in a community choir. People may make music as a hobby, like a teen playing cello in a youth orchestra, or work as a professional musician or singer. The music industry includes the individuals who create new songs and musical pieces (such as songwriters and composers), individuals who perform music (which include orchestra, jazz band and rock band musicians, singers and conductors), individuals who record music (music producers and sound engineers), individuals who organize concert tours, and individuals who sell recordings, sheet music, and scores to customers.


A song is a musical composition intended to be sung by the human voice. This is often done at distinct and fixed pitches using patterns of sound and silence. Songs contain various forms, such as those including the repetition of sections. Through semantic widening, a broader sense of the word “song” may refer to instrumentals. Written words created specifically for music or for which music is specifically created, are called lyrics. If a pre-existing poem is set to composed music in classical music it is an art song. Songs that are sung on repeated pitches without distinct contours and patterns that rise and fall are called chants. Songs in a simple style that are learned informally are often referred to as folk songs. Songs that are composed for professional singers who sell their recordings or live shows to the mass market are called popular songs. These songs, which have broad appeal, are often composed by professional songwriters, composers and lyricists. Art songs are composed by trained classical composers for concert or recital performances. Songs are performed live and recorded on audio or video (or, in some cases, a song may be performed live and simultaneously recorded). Songs may also appear in plays, musical theatre, stage shows of any form, and within operas.

A song may be for a solo singer, a lead singer supported by background singers, a duet, trio, or larger ensemble involving more voices singing in harmony, although the term is generally not used for large classical music vocal forms including opera and oratorio, which use terms such as aria and recitative instead. Songs with more than one voice to a part singing in polyphony or harmony are considered choral works. Songs can be broadly divided into many different forms, depending on the criteria used.

Source: askdifference.com

The Problem with Poverty – MDS

I am just re writing what I’ve read from the late Senator Miriam Defensor Santiago (MDS) about the problem of poverty from her book “Stupid is forevermore”, published last 2015.

“I use the U.N. definition that poverty is present when the person lives below $1 a day. The U.N. estimates that about 1.2 billion people in the world currently live in poverty, and one half of those are children. The poor people generally in sub- Saharan Africa and in South Asia. In 2000, 189 members of the U.N adopted the Eight Millennium Development Goals designed to alleviate poverty, and improve the quality of life between their borders.

During our time it now appears that globalization is a key factor in increasing poverty levels in developing countries. If we do not give ourselves a reality check, industrialization will leave the Philippines out of the global economy. Therefore, each Filipino with a conscience, particularly young graduates with your entire lives before you, must resolve to help reduce poverty in the Philippines. I emphasize to you, as an intelligent audience, that the likelihood of poverty is increased in our country by our poor governance, ethic conflict, corruption, degradation, and the absence of effective social services.

You and I as individuals share with our government the responsibility for alleviating poverty. In the exercise of your profession, try hard to participate in poverty alleviation programs. Support economic safety nets, demand increased job and credit opportunities, and insist that government should execute programs designed to improve the quality of life, education, and health care.

If you are thinking of joining the brain drain, meaning the outflow of our professional people to higher income countries. I would regret it very much. We all agree that the migrants and the countries that they join represent gains for our national economy. But what happens to the families left behind?

Here are the key points I want you to toss around in your educated brain:

  • The Philippines has borne some of the costs of educating you. If you go abroad, our country will lose the tax revenues from your incomes.
  • If you emigrate, and particularly when you are a teacher, you could be depriving younger Filipinos of your guidance and stimulus. those who could become your assistants will no longer be able to do so after you depart.
  • The brain drain poses the problem that people who move out of the country are mostly those who are trained and skilled, leaving behind the unskilled and the semi-unskilled.
  • Iy you leave, your departure will impact internal income distribution, because professionals who emigrate imply that they will stay if their salary differentials were raised. If our society gives them higher salaries, they would reinforce the inegalitarian income distribution.

The brain drain is external, because Filipinos leave for abroad. But the brain drain is also internal, because the professionals prefer to practice in the cities and often disregard the needs of rural areas.” – Miriam Defensor Santiago

My thoughts about what I read:

My family is not that poor, but we’re not that rich either. We just survive out of our means. I am the eldest among all my siblings. As a young professional in the Philippines, I have always wanted to go abroad when I was young, that’s why I chose nursing as my course, though it was not my first choice. However, there were changes after I graduated college. I went to med school, not just once but twice. But then, I had a lot of struggles with myself, my purpose and my motivation when I was in med school, considering that it is a very rewarding profession if ever I graduate.

I was not able to continue my med school, because I have not passed some of the subjects that I had; and all the while I was so distracted about so many things. Maybe that’s the reason why I was not able to continue. I have always wanted closure from circumstances in my past, but it was never really fully achieved. Even then, I am forever grateful for the learnings that I had from those moments.

Until now, I am still wondering what will my future be as a registered nurse in my country. I believe I am not a hopeless case.

Some of the thoughts that entered my mind, I thought of being in the academe.

I’d like to be a teacher. Be a professor in a College of Nursing.

Motivate aspiring nurses to not give up on their dreams. Sounds great! Right?

Will I be able to make it? Maybe, someday in God’s time.

As of now, I’m still praying for my workplace. Currently, I am a full time Masteral student. I just had a one year of experience as a nurse for the first time. It’s because I have always not reached a hospital stay no longer than six months. I am transferring from one hospital to another before. But, I am just beyond grateful that I have already finished more than a year experience and it is already an achievement for me. But, I believe I can do more than that.

So, back to brain drain. I was really affected by its impact. I love my country. I just want to be a productive citizen of this country. I believe that the Philippines is not a hopeless case as it is included in the third world countries.

I just believe and I pray for my country, my fellow Filipinos, my family and most importantly for myself. I want to be the best nurse that I can be. I want to serve. I want to improve myself not just for me but for my future family someday. If God will find favor in me. I pray He will not abandon me in every challenge and struggles I face. I know I am secured in His hands, that I don’t need to seek greener pastures abroad because I know that my country is blessed, that I don’t need to compare it to other nations because I know for sure that someday my country will just improve too (the government, the transportation, the businesses, quality of education, students and young professionals aspiring for excellence and most importantly the health aspect).

I know some people will think of me as delusional, but I just thought that I need to face reality and not just dwell in my fantasies considering that I had been depressed for so long. If I will just think outside the box, and just not be selfish about my thoughts which sometimes cripples me. I know I can do better than what I have been doing as a Filipino.

However, my future is still in God’s hands. Not my will, but His will be done in my life. Amen. Thank you.


MENSA, the largest and oldest high IQ society in the world, is in the process of creating the ultimate standardized IQ test for Filipinos. Contributions in Filipino are welcome from anyone with an IQ of 132 and above. These are the entries to date:

[1] Kung ikaw si Batman, sino ang bahala sa yo? Give three examples.
[2] Ano ang mas malaki? BAG NI DORA o BULSA NI DORAEMON? Ipaliwanag.
[3] Sino ang kumagat sa logo ng Apple, at bakit hindi niya ito inubos?
[4] Kung may UPCAT, bakit walang UPDOG? Elaborate.
[5] Sa produktong Crayola, ano ang pinagkaiba ng yellow-green sa green-yellow? Explain using logarithmic functions.
[6] Kung ang 1 kg ay may 1000 g, ilang grams naman ang meron sa Instagram? Show your solution.
[7] Kung sa kasaysayan ng Pilipinas may “”Panahon ng Amerikano, Hapon, Kastila at Pre-Colonial”, kailan naman matatagpuan ang Panahon ng Kopong-kopong? Ilahad ang mga mahalagang pangyayari at magpakita ng archaeological evidences.
[8] If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, bakit sila nagpunta sa Earth?
[9] Should you give up or should you just keep chasing pavements? Expound.
[10] Ano ang meron kay Brand X at galit na galit ang ibang brand sa kanya? Explain.
[11] Masasabi mo bang fair ang Miss Universe Pageant kung lahat ng contestants at judges ay galing sa Earth? Explain.
[12] Gaano kataas ang lipad ng Whisper with wings? Graph your solution.
[13] Kung may mag-imbento ng powdered water, anong idadagdag mo?
[14] Kung walang kamay ang mga ibon, then why do birds suddenly APIR? Ipaliwanag.
[15] Sabi ng iba, napuntahan niya na lahat ng sulok ng mundo. Paano mo masasabi na may “sulok” ang mundo kung Oblate Spheroid naman ang hugis nito? Explain and draw your answer on a 1/4 sheet of graphing paper.
[16] May nalunod na ba sa lalim ng gabi? Kung meron, enumerate.
[17] Bakit ang tawag sa “building” ay building kung tapos na siya? Justify.
[18] Is this the real life? Or is this just fantasy? Illucidate.
[19] Gaano kadalas ang minsan? Enumerate.
[20] How did Adele set fire to the rain? Write the chemical formula.
[21] Kapag ang ipis nahulog sa tubig na may sabon, dudumi ba ang tubig o lilinis ang ipis?
[22] Bakit pababa nang pababa ang ispaghetti? Explicate using Newton’s Law of Gravity.
[23] Does the moonlight shine on Paris after the sun goes down?
[24] Kung ang nakatusok na baboy ay barbeque, ang nakatusok na saging ay bananacue, bakit ang kabayo, carousel?
[25] Ilan ang butas sa isang cracker ng Skyflakes? Illustrate.
[26] Kung ang tao nagmula sa unggoy, bakit may mukhang kabayo? Explain.
[27] Kung ang tao ay nag-evolve mula sa unggoy, bakit may unggoy pa rin?
[28] Nauuhaw din ba ang mga isda? Ipaliwanag.
[29] Bakit kapag rush hour tsaka mabagal ang daloy ng traffic? Explain your answer using sign language.
[30] Nasaan ang Edge of Glory? Write your final answer in nautical miles.
[31] In 140 characters, ibuod ang talambuhay ni Jose Rizal.
[32] Ang breakfast ba at dinner, pwedeng ilagay sa lunchbox? Prove your answer.
[33] Kung si Corazon ang unang aswang, pang ilan ka?

(Questions taken from a post by Bingbing Agbayani-Bonoan, the Undersecretary of Mensa Philippines) and copied and reposted from Direk Mark Aranal’s FB status post.

Will try to answer some of the questions. Hahaha. For fun! 🤣 I got this from Pastor Niki Miranda’s post at the New Beginning Impact Youth Ministry page. Haha. Kamiss.

Single and Happy

Single and Happy by Francis Kong

I was tired but I was happy last week. It was the 13th talk for the week for me. But I drove all the way from Manila to Batangas to take part in a conference for singles. Nine hundred-plus of them gathered together to hear me speak. Until today, I still do not understand how and why God would prepare people to listen to me speak. I am sure this is what they call “Amazing Grace.”
This got me thinking.

There are many people out there who have been single for a while, and they may be starting to feel discouraged that they might never meet someone ever. It’s easy for thoughts like this to pull anybody down. If you, my reader, happen to be one of them, then I would like to offer a few suggestions on how you can be single and be extremely happy. Because, really, you can. Just consider the following things:

    I had a heart to heart talk with my daughter Hannah one time. Hannah had just graduated from college, and even while she was still in school, she was already extremely entrepreneurial. I told her, “Hannah, you don’t have suitors, and I don’t see you having many male friends around. You seem to always be at home doing your work or preparing for your next project. Why is this so?”
    This daughter of mine, who’s in her mid-twenties, rolled her eyes at me in her trademark style, and said, “Oh forget it Daddy! I have so many plans for my life and so many things I want to do. Being tied down to somebody right now is simply NOT my priority. Besides, you’re my dad and you can provide me with anything I want.” And she looked at me with a sheepish smile.
    I feigned horror and said, “You mean you do not want your dad to retire?” “Work harder dad, work harder…. like a horse dad….” And we laughed so hard together. She is single but thinks like a winner, not a victim. Like her, there are many successful single people out there who know firsthand that singleness can be enjoyed.
    Do not rush into marriage. There are many women I know who rush into marriage simply because they want to escape their current homes, or maybe because they want to please somebody else. Don’t do that!
    Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and you need to pray for the right person and first become a right person. The next time an insensitive friend or relative approaches you and say, “The clock is ticking…You’re not married yet?” Chin up, look at them in the eye and give a warm smile, and say, “Excuse me, but I am currently…happily self-sufficient!”
    You will never be happy unless you are productive. As a single person, there are many things you can do at the moment that many cannot because of family commitments they have to keep. The world needs you to be productive and to contribute to its betterment. And the more you are focused on a cause bigger than yourself, the more you will find happiness and fulfillment.
    If you study Scriptures, you will find that the apostle Paul stayed single all throughout his life, and he was happy he did. Now that is being positive. There is a term for this – “Blessed Singleness.”
    Practice a positive attitude. Realize that life is seriously beautiful. Even though George Clooney isn’t sitting on your couch and proposing marriage, you have other beautiful, things going on for you. Your friends, a dog, a hobby, travel, sports adventure – have you ever taken the time to thank God for all these good things and others that you have but have somehow took for granted? Enjoy the moment. Sing. Write. Dance. Paint. These are wonderful activities but most importantly….serve!
    Love God with your entire being, because His is the greatest companionship you can ever have. And with Him, you win big time all the time!


Why is serving others a powerful antidote for reducing anxiety?

First, it allows you to see other people’s problems. Your own difficulties will often shrink when placed before others’ strenuous situations. You become more thankful for all the blessings that you have. Complaining is reduced. Praise increases. And your heart is lifted in joy.

Next, it takes the focus off you. Anxiety increases when your mind is fixed on yourself. You become obsessed with all that is wrong and not working for you. Joy increases when you serve others. Someone once said that joy means: J-Jesus is first. O-others are next. Y-You are last.

When you do, you just may find that your own anxiety is lifted to joy – a joy you’ve never experienced before.

How Big is Your Dream?

I got this from Pastor Niki Miranda, our Pastor back at New Beginning Community Church last 2012.

How Big is Your Dream?

Based on John Maxwell’s book “Put Your Dreams to a Test”

Introduction: All of us have dreams!

Will you achieve your dreams in a life time? What percentage do you think will your dream be realized?

Ex. Teacher tells us to prepare for the exams. They give us pointers. Why? They want us to succeed? They are setting us up for success. If you know the right questions the more the likelihood of your success.

I Have a Dream” is a public speech by American activist Martin Luther King, Jr. It was delivered by King on the afternoon of Wednesday, August 28, 1963, in which he called for an end to racism in the United States. The speech was delivered to over 250,000 civil rights supporters from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial during the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, was a defining moment of the American Civil Rights.

Misconceptions of Dreams:

  • Day dreams. Distractions from current work.
  • Pie in the sky. Wild ideas with no strategies or basis in reality.
  • Bad Dreams. Worries that breed fear and paralysis
  • Idealistic dreams. The way the world will be if you were in charge.
  • Vicarious Dreams. Dreams lived through others.
  • Romantic Dreams. The belief that some person would make you happy.
  • Career Dreams. The belief that career will make you happy.
  • Destination Dreams. The belief that title, promotion and award will make you happy.
  • Material Dreams. The belief that wealth and possession will make you happy.

If these are not good dreams, valid ones worthy of a person’s life then what are?

Here’s a definition of a dream that is test and pass.

A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will and emotions empowering you to do all that you can and achieve it. A genuine dream is a picture and blueprint of a person’s purpose and potential.

If you ever given up hope and lost site of your dream and never have connected with something worth dreaming… it would be helpful to learn about the…

Five Common Reasons Why People Have Trouble Identifying A Dream:

  • Some People Have Been Discouraged From Dreaming By Others.
  • Some People Are Hindered By Past Disappointments and Hurts.
  • Some People Get Into The Habit Of Settling For Average.
  • Some People Lack The Confidence To Pursue Their Dreams.
  • Some People Lack The Imagination To Dream.

1.Some People Have Been Discouraged From Dreaming By Others.

Many people had their dreams taken away from them. This world is filled with idea killers. Many people not pursuing their own dreams don’t want others to pursue their own dreams. Why? Because other people’s success makes them feel inadequate and insecure. Business professors Gary Hamill and SK Pralahad wrote about an experiment conducted amongst a group of 4 monkeys…. pole, banana, one hungry monkey… time came that all the monkeys in the room were those who were not drenched by cold water, but continue to prevent each other from climbing the pole… but this time they don’t know why?

Perhaps others have drag you down in life… they discouraged you from dreaming… maybe they resented the fact that you wanted to grow up and move up or make something significant with your life. Or maybe they were trying to protect you from pain and discouragement. Either way if you have been discouraged from dreaming, take heart it’s never too late to start dreaming and pursuing your dreams. Ex. Joseph, David

2. Some People Are Hindered By Past Disappointments and Hurts.

Disappointment is the gap between expectation and reality. All of us have encountered that gap. All of us have our share of disappointments. All of us have our own disappointments. Disappointments can be utterly disappointing. We would sometimes withdraw. Ex. Peter was so disappointed that after denying Jesus three times he decided to go back fishing.

3. Some People Get Into The Habit Of Settling For Average.

Dreams require people to stretch. You cannot simply remain a mediocre and pursue your dreams. Mediocrity is a personal choice. Mediocrity and Dream is incompatible. When we settle for average we would sometimes blame it on others and our circumstance. Maybe your problem is your lack of dreaming. Dream (libre ang managinip). Nothing really happens with an unworthwhile dream. God expects all of us to make a difference: in our family, in our community, in our church, in our nation. Ex. Words such as awesome, majestic, great, excellence are all reserved for God…right? Who is God? He is your Father. Therefore, this should also be found in His children. If we are connected to the Vine we will bear much fruit? Who’s fruit? God’s fruit!

8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. (Philippians 4:8-9)

4. Some People Lack The Confidence To Pursue Their Dreams.

Dreams are fragile. They are at risk especially if you don’t have the experience. How do you boost your confidence? Self knowledge. Great confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself. Know who you are. Assess your strengths and weaknesses. Your mentor can help you here. All of us have been given abilities and talents to pursue our dreams.

I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Ephesians 4:1

Each one of us has received a special gift in proportion to what Christ has given. Ephesians 4:7 GNT

I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

5. Some People Lack The Imagination To Dream.

How do people discover their dreams? By Dreaming! Sound simple. Many people simply stop dreaming. Imagination is the soil that brings dreams to life. If you no longer imagine or stop imagining, don’t lose hope. God has put that ability in us. Just look at the children. They are always imaginative. Discover your dream. I believe that God wants us all to dream. And to dream big! Why? Because He is a Big God! He wants to do Big things. And He wants to do this through us.

You might be saying now…OK I understand now that I need to dream… I have a dream…But what are my odds that if I pursue my dreams I would fulfill it?

Ten Questions to ponder:

  1. The Ownership Question: Is my dream really my dream?
  2. The Clarity Question: Do I really see my dream?
  3. The Reality Question: Am I depending on factors within my control to achieve my dream?
  4. The Passion Question: Does my dream compel me to follow it?
  5. The Pathway Question: Do I have a strategy to reach my dream.
  6. The People Question: Have I included the people I need to realize my dream?
  7. The Cost Question: Am I willing to pay the price for my dream.
  8. The Tenacity Question: Am I moving closer to my dream?
  9. The Fulfillment Question: Does working toward my dream bring satisfaction?
  10. The Significance Question: Does my dream benefit others?

I believe that if you really explore these questions and honestly evaluate yourself and see where you are now and answer YES to all the questions, the odds of you achieving your dreams is great.

You only need to dream big and trust God to help you fulfill those dreams for His glory and honor.

“Expect Great Things; Attempt Great Things”

William Carey, 1792

Progressive Pulmonary Care Unit Immersion

Hi! I am nurse Jea (Jea is the nick name I am using at work, because Jaea is difficult to spell and to pronounce for my patients). I am a Patient Care Services – Float Pool Nurse. I have no permanent unit, so I have been rotating to different units in the hospital.

I will be sharing my experience with Pulmonary Care Unit – Progressive Care for this last month’s immersion. I have started my immersion from June 22 up to August 2, 2020.

From June 22 up to July 1, I was assigned to Sir Luigi as my preceptor. He was nice, but there were times that he reprimanded me because of some things that I forgot and failed to do: such as late referral to the MROD for the hourly urine output measurement, poor time management, being stiffly book-based, but I’m thankful for it.

CLABSI Notes (Central line-associated bloodstream infection)

With Sir Luigi, I learned how to do PICC line flushing of pre and post medication, once daily usually if not used (with 0.2 ml Heparin and with 50 cc of NSS), to use 3 or 5 cc.

  • First, use clinell wipes (green for device and blue for skin) on the port for 30 seconds.
  • Flush Heparin 5 cc
  • Flush medication
  • posi flush of 10 cc NSS
  • Then, Heparin 5cc again.

On the other hand, upon cleaning a central line, I should be wearing clean gloves; then put cutasept, then wear sterile gloves.

  • Use clinell wipes (green for device and blue for skin)
  • put biopatch. (blue – face the sky)
  • then clean with clinell, always away from the center
  • then, place tegaderm
  • dress unused ports of the central line with curos. (hang unused curos to the pole)

CAUTI Notes (Catheter-associated urinary tract infection)

  • It is very important to do perineal washing every shift even when the patient did not poop
  • Lower foley catheter below the bed
  • hang the foley catheter to the bed not the side rails

VAP Notes (Ventilator Associated Pneumonia)

  • It is important to suction
  • tracheostomy care must be done per shift
  • silent ventilator
  • clean inner cannula, by removing inner cannula to disinfecting solution in hydrogen peroxide plus NSS in a kidney basin), but replace the inner cannula with fenestrated cannula
  • Put back to mechanical ventilator
  • hyperoxygenate the patient
  • Then, remove the non woven gauze dressing surrounding the tracheostomy, disinfect with hydrogen peroxide using a cotton applicator then put gauze

Code Blue Notes:

If I am the bedside nurse of the patient who is pulseless, immediately flat the bed.

  • Never leave the patient. Patient may have his/ her sensorium decreased.
  • Call bell if the patient is deteriorating. Tell the Vital signs of the patient. Remember the time called for code blue which is 3221.
  • Usually, upon arrival of the other health care team, one is assigned for the oxygenation of the patient and the suctioning (O2 @10L ambubag, pump every 8 seconds. Disconnect MV then do ambubagging), then the other is assigned in the Ecart and one does the compression (the bedside nurse, 1st set is 120 CPR)
  • Usually, all the drips of the patient are stopped! Then, fast drip of 900 cc NSS is done but make sure to check patency of the line first.
  • The Ecart person, must remember the time the 1st Epi was given. It must be timed for every 3 minutes.
  • In a code blue, the MROD is there, the AROD intubates, there’s xray as well post intubation, the HM oversees and the Patient Experience is the social worker who explains the process to the relatives.

RRT Notes:

  • Note the O2 saturation of the patient.
  • must be placed in high back rest
  • hook O2 or hyperoxygenate
  • refer to MROD
  • Don’t stop inotropes such as (Levophed, Dopamine, Dobutamine, Epinephrine and Phenylephrine)

Even when I have been a floater for so many months now, I still feel like I have so many things to learn. I am thankful for the learnings Sir Looj taught me.

Also, I have been reproached by some of my senior nurses and charge nurses in the area. I understand why I was scolded and I appreciate it, however, I wish they did not say it in a loud manner, because it is humiliating, especially for an introvert like me, but I just took it all in. I made mistakes and I humbly accept them.

Also, it is important to remember to transfer a patient having an O2 with a nursing aid or a porter but most importantly with MROD overseeing the transfer of bed to another room (such as when the patient is for hemodialysis, or for CT scan for progressive care patients). Also, the Neuro Resident is the one overseeing for patient’s transfer for MRI.

On the other hand, upon giving medications, always let a senior nurse check the medications prior to administration. Upon going to the patient’s room, I should make sure that the EMAR is with me. I must ask for the patient’s identifiers (name and birthday), then double check the dose of the medication in the EMAR with the medication at hand.

I also learned how to do bed bath, how to change linens and on how to change the diapers of the patient.

Note to self: I must be a safe nurse all the time. I must render safe nursing care, and must avoid errors.

I am thankful to God for this experience. I am thankful for Maam Gretchen, the Nursing Unit Manager of the 6 Main A and Sir Neil, the Assistant Nursing Unit Manager and Sir Mike, the Clinical Unit Based Educator of the unit, Sir Luigi, my preceptor and my senior nurses (Maam Aya, Maam Tama, Maam Andrea, Sir Dom, Sir Rein, Sir Kiko, Sir Coco, Sir Ja, Maam Kim, Maam Barbie, Maam Felice, Sir Thoi, Sir AJ, Maam Van, Maam Ven, Maam El, Sir Alvin, Maam Mers and Maam Arlene, Sir Clive and Maam KC, Maam Faye, Sir Earl, and Maam Lyka) and fellow floaters Sir Ric and Maam Lanie. I am thankful for all of them, but these are just the names that I remembered.

See you again sometime soon, 6 Main A! Thank you God for all the learnings.

Is My Dreams My Dream!

I got this from Pastor Niki Miranda, our Pastor at New Beginning Community Church back in 2011-2013 when I was still part of the music ministry many years ago at Mandaluyong.

“Is My Dreams My Dream!”

How Do You Know You Are Pursuing Your Dream That Is Not Really Your Dream.

1.      If someone owns your dreams you will not have the right fit!  When someone owns your dream you will not have the right fit.  Ex. David given an armor by King Saul

When you own your dream it will feel right with you!

2.    When you do not own your dream it is a weighed on your shoulders!  If you own your dream it will provide wings to your shoulders.

3.    When someone owns your dream it will drain your energy.  When you own your dream it will fire you up.

4.    When someone owns your dream it will put you to sleep. When you own your dream it will keep you up at night.

5.    When someone owns your dream it will take you out of your strength zone.  When you own your dream it will take you out of your comfort zone.

6.    When someone owns your dream it will be fulfilling to others. When you own your dream it will be fulfilling to you.

7.     And when someone else owns your dream it would require others to make you do it. But if you own your dream you will feel you made to do it.

Ownership is the first step for fulfilling your dream. It’s like a key that opens a dream everything else.  When you own it you become empowered to rise above the excuses offered by people by not pursuing a dream.  

Excuses people make for not pursuing their dream.

1.     Dreams don’t come true for ordinary people.  Many believe that dreams are for special people.  And everybody else must settle for less.  But I believe everyone can have a dream and pursue it.   In fact the pursuit of a dream makes the difference between ordinary and extraordinary people. Ordinary people can live extraordinary lives when they follow their dreams.  Why do I say that?  Because a dream becomes a catalyst to make important changes in their lives. You don’t change who you are in order to live out your dream, you pursue your dream and the process changes who you are and what you can accomplish. A dream is both a target and a catalyst. 

2.    If a dream is not that Big it is not worth pursuing.  A dream must never be evaluated according to its size. That’s not what determines its worth. A dream does not have to be big it just has to be yours!  In one office, a man said to his colleagues, “All I want to be is to be a great dad!”  None of his colleagues criticize him for his dream.  When he shared his dream to them it brought everyone into tears.  It wasn’t such a big dream as some would imagine a dream, it was a powerful one.  “Bigger is not always better, size does not determine significance” John Maxwell. 

3.    Now is not the time to pursue my dream. The most common reason for not pursuing one’s dream is timing. Others say it is too soon while others fear it’s too late. The timing will never always be perfect for you to pursue your dream so you might as well start now if not next year you will be a year older and not a step closer to it.  

If you are willing to take that step of pursuing and owning your dream, you might want to do the following process:

1.     Be Willing To “Bet” On Yourself.  You may succeed when no one believes in you.  But you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself.  In fact if you can’t believe in yourself you will have difficult time believing much on anything else.  You will only drift without anything compelling you to move forward.   However, people who take ownership of their dreams believe in themselves.  When they believe in themselves they are willing to bet on themselves.

In the movie Akeelah and the Bee, is a story of Akeelah Anderson (Keke Palmer) who attends Crenshaw Middle School, a predominantly black school in South Los Angeles. Akeelah is a bright 11-year-old and never makes errors on her spelling tests and doesn’t really seem to fit in. She lives with her widowed mother, 

In one scene, Dr. Larabee (Lawrence Fishburne) asked Akeelah what her dream in life was…watch the video…

Akeelah: [quoting Marianne Williamson] Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

Dr. Larabee: Does that mean anything to you?

Akeelah: I don’t know.

Dr. Larabee: It’s written in plain English. What does it mean?

Akeelah: That I’m not supposed to be afraid?

Dr. Larabee: Afraid of what?

Akeelah: Afraid of… me?

You will never believe in your dream unless you believe on yourself.  If you want to succeed you must believe in yourself that you can. You must bet on yourself if you want to see your dreams come true.

2.    Lead Your Life Instead Of Just Accepting Your Life.  Choosing to lead your live and not just accepting it is critical to owning your dream. When you die our God will not ask you why you did not become a Savior or develop a cure for cancer.  He will ask you, “Why you did not become you? Why didn’t you become all that you are?”   Reaching your God given potential requires taking responsibility for yourself and your life.  It means taking an active leadership role with yourself. 

3.      Love What You Do And Do What You Love.  Success people, those who see and seize their dream, love what they do and they do what they love.  They allow their passion and talent to guide them.  Why?  Because talent, purpose and potential always go hand in hand.  I don’t believe God makes mistakes.  He doesn’t create people to be talented in one area but interested in an unrelated one.  There is always a potential alignment of talent and passion if we have the courage to pursue our purpose and take risk.

    An important question we all need to answer if we want to become the person God wants us to be is, “Who we are?  Who am I?”  and you connect that with work that you truly love and in so doing unleashing the productive and creative power that they ever imagined. 

4.    Don’t Compare Yourself or Your Dreams To Others. I believe all of us want to be successful in life. And everyone define success differently. How do you define success? Do you agree with Webster meaning of success:  the gain of wealth, fame, rank, etc. If you do how much wealth do you need to become successful? Or how much fame do you intend to have?  Should you compare yourself to others? How about you devote yourself raising children with good character and serving the community? Does that meant you are less successful than those who had high rank in the business world? No! I don’t think so.

    Success is doing the best you can with what you have wherever you start in life.  You should never let others set the standard for you just as you should never allow yourself to live someone else’s dream. Comparing ourselves with others will not benefit us. Nor does it bring us closer to achieving our dream. 

5.     Believe Your Vision For The Future Even If Others Don’t Understand You. Though you have a great potential and the seed of purpose in you, people around you will not see your dream as you see it.  They will not understand you!  They will even ridicule you and put you down.

    A classic example is the story of Noah. God gave Noah a vision and he dreamt to make a Big Ship that no one was ever seen and travelled with.  People ridiculed him, mocked him, made fun of him and discouraged him.  Noah was unaffected by their actions and kept on doing what God envisioned him to do.

    Don’t let the negatives around take you away from owning your dream. If someone tries to silence your hopes maybe that person is not your friend. We are all unique and given different kinds of dreams to glorify and honor God. 

    God has put a dream inside you.  It’s yours and no one else’s.  It declares your uniqueness.  It holds your potential. Only you can birthed it.  Only you can live it. Own it!   

Read: Acts 20:24

Notice To Explain

It’s been almost six months since I was hired at St. Luke’s. I have started at 3 West and now I’m in 3 Main A, I have been floated to 2 Main B as well. 3 west and 3 Main A are areas for pediatric patients. While 2 Main B is a unit for Mothers and Babies. I love Pediatrics! I’m very thankful for all the learning and new found friends I have met along the way of staying in St. Luke’s Quezon City.

I really like working at St. Luke’s Medical Center (SLMC). I love the environment compared to the previous hospitals where I performed my job as a nurse.

I even thought of staying for long term if God’s will, but I need to help my sister’s funding for her education, because she wants to become a medical doctor and I am the eldest in the family. So I need to be dependable a few years from now. I might most probably work abroad to save money as the ‘ate’ in my family.

I am so blessed to be part of the Lukan family. I thank all the doctors, residents and nurses that I have worked with. They inspire me to keep doing what I can. Although, I am not claiming a perfect work. I commit mistakes too.

Moreover, working at the hospital is no joke. I make sure that I still keep my mind sane with all the stress and the challenges and the sick people I am around with. That is why I do the things that I love such as writing, looking at photos in Pinterest, taking selfies, doing my part-time business, exercise with boxing and swimming, and by reading verses using the bible I bought myself a year ago and by using the bible app whenever I am not in the hospital working as a nurse. It’s like I need to be a ray of sunshine everyday as I enter the rooms of my patients. Although it is very tiring, I am loving my job. I love my work and I love that I am being a channel of God’s healing with my patients.

I pray that I would continuously be a vessel of God’s healing as I touch and give care to my patients.

To my managers, residents and senior nurses, thank you for being patient with me. Thank you for guiding me along the way. I hope to make less error to none in the next succeeding months of my stay in St. Luke’s. It’s difficult but I know I can make it. I am hoping to become a regular nurse soon. I have been praying for it and it’s almost within reach. Thank you God for everything. Please guide me and I ask for wisdom as I do my duties daily. Thank You God. I know You will answer my prayers in Your time and as I delight in You. I will wait patiently. God’s will be done in my life.