I got this from Pastor Niki Miranda, our Pastor at New Beginning Community Church back in 2011-2013 when I was still part of the music ministry many years ago at Mandaluyong.
“Is My Dreams My Dream!”
How Do You Know You Are Pursuing Your Dream That Is Not Really Your Dream.
1. If someone owns your dreams you will not have the right fit! When someone owns your dream you will not have the right fit. Ex. David given an armor by King Saul
When you own your dream it will feel right with you!
2. When you do not own your dream it is a weighed on your shoulders! If you own your dream it will provide wings to your shoulders.
3. When someone owns your dream it will drain your energy. When you own your dream it will fire you up.
4. When someone owns your dream it will put you to sleep. When you own your dream it will keep you up at night.
5. When someone owns your dream it will take you out of your strength zone. When you own your dream it will take you out of your comfort zone.
6. When someone owns your dream it will be fulfilling to others. When you own your dream it will be fulfilling to you.
7. And when someone else owns your dream it would require others to make you do it. But if you own your dream you will feel you made to do it.
Ownership is the first step for fulfilling your dream. It’s like a key that opens a dream everything else. When you own it you become empowered to rise above the excuses offered by people by not pursuing a dream.
Excuses people make for not pursuing their dream.
1. Dreams don’t come true for ordinary people. Many believe that dreams are for special people. And everybody else must settle for less. But I believe everyone can have a dream and pursue it. In fact the pursuit of a dream makes the difference between ordinary and extraordinary people. Ordinary people can live extraordinary lives when they follow their dreams. Why do I say that? Because a dream becomes a catalyst to make important changes in their lives. You don’t change who you are in order to live out your dream, you pursue your dream and the process changes who you are and what you can accomplish. A dream is both a target and a catalyst.
2. If a dream is not that Big it is not worth pursuing. A dream must never be evaluated according to its size. That’s not what determines its worth. A dream does not have to be big it just has to be yours! In one office, a man said to his colleagues, “All I want to be is to be a great dad!” None of his colleagues criticize him for his dream. When he shared his dream to them it brought everyone into tears. It wasn’t such a big dream as some would imagine a dream, it was a powerful one. “Bigger is not always better, size does not determine significance” John Maxwell.
3. Now is not the time to pursue my dream. The most common reason for not pursuing one’s dream is timing. Others say it is too soon while others fear it’s too late. The timing will never always be perfect for you to pursue your dream so you might as well start now if not next year you will be a year older and not a step closer to it.
If you are willing to take that step of pursuing and owning your dream, you might want to do the following process:
1. Be Willing To “Bet” On Yourself. You may succeed when no one believes in you. But you will never succeed if you don’t believe in yourself. In fact if you can’t believe in yourself you will have difficult time believing much on anything else. You will only drift without anything compelling you to move forward. However, people who take ownership of their dreams believe in themselves. When they believe in themselves they are willing to bet on themselves.
In the movie Akeelah and the Bee, is a story of Akeelah Anderson (Keke Palmer) who attends Crenshaw Middle School, a predominantly black school in South Los Angeles. Akeelah is a bright 11-year-old and never makes errors on her spelling tests and doesn’t really seem to fit in. She lives with her widowed mother,
In one scene, Dr. Larabee (Lawrence Fishburne) asked Akeelah what her dream in life was…watch the video…
Akeelah: [quoting Marianne Williamson] Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
Dr. Larabee: Does that mean anything to you?
Akeelah: I don’t know.
Dr. Larabee: It’s written in plain English. What does it mean?
Akeelah: That I’m not supposed to be afraid?
Dr. Larabee: Afraid of what?
Akeelah: Afraid of… me?
You will never believe in your dream unless you believe on yourself. If you want to succeed you must believe in yourself that you can. You must bet on yourself if you want to see your dreams come true.
2. Lead Your Life Instead Of Just Accepting Your Life. Choosing to lead your live and not just accepting it is critical to owning your dream. When you die our God will not ask you why you did not become a Savior or develop a cure for cancer. He will ask you, “Why you did not become you? Why didn’t you become all that you are?” Reaching your God given potential requires taking responsibility for yourself and your life. It means taking an active leadership role with yourself.
3. Love What You Do And Do What You Love. Success people, those who see and seize their dream, love what they do and they do what they love. They allow their passion and talent to guide them. Why? Because talent, purpose and potential always go hand in hand. I don’t believe God makes mistakes. He doesn’t create people to be talented in one area but interested in an unrelated one. There is always a potential alignment of talent and passion if we have the courage to pursue our purpose and take risk.
An important question we all need to answer if we want to become the person God wants us to be is, “Who we are? Who am I?” and you connect that with work that you truly love and in so doing unleashing the productive and creative power that they ever imagined.
4. Don’t Compare Yourself or Your Dreams To Others. I believe all of us want to be successful in life. And everyone define success differently. How do you define success? Do you agree with Webster meaning of success: the gain of wealth, fame, rank, etc. If you do how much wealth do you need to become successful? Or how much fame do you intend to have? Should you compare yourself to others? How about you devote yourself raising children with good character and serving the community? Does that meant you are less successful than those who had high rank in the business world? No! I don’t think so.
Success is doing the best you can with what you have wherever you start in life. You should never let others set the standard for you just as you should never allow yourself to live someone else’s dream. Comparing ourselves with others will not benefit us. Nor does it bring us closer to achieving our dream.
5. Believe Your Vision For The Future Even If Others Don’t Understand You. Though you have a great potential and the seed of purpose in you, people around you will not see your dream as you see it. They will not understand you! They will even ridicule you and put you down.
A classic example is the story of Noah. God gave Noah a vision and he dreamt to make a Big Ship that no one was ever seen and travelled with. People ridiculed him, mocked him, made fun of him and discouraged him. Noah was unaffected by their actions and kept on doing what God envisioned him to do.
Don’t let the negatives around take you away from owning your dream. If someone tries to silence your hopes maybe that person is not your friend. We are all unique and given different kinds of dreams to glorify and honor God.
God has put a dream inside you. It’s yours and no one else’s. It declares your uniqueness. It holds your potential. Only you can birthed it. Only you can live it. Own it!
Read: Acts 20:24