Boys only want love when it’s torture?

“Boys only want love if it’s torture, Don’t say I didn’t say I didn’t warn ya”
This is what I’ve got from Taylor Swift’s recent music video named blank space.

Hmmmn.. I don’t know if this is true or not, but in regards of the thought it brought me, it caught my curiosity.

I have experienced to be in a relationship before. To name it, I had four serious relationship. I’m not counting the last one. So, It’s four. Though the last one, was serious for me. I guess? Because I was so into that guy. But he doesn’t feel the same way for me? About that, I’m not sure. Actually, there was never an us. So, I can’t count that in.

So anyway, I failed many times already in this area of my life. But to be honest, I still don’t know? It’s a conundrum.

But as to what Taylor Swift said, she admits she come to understand that there’s a huge difference between stepping out with someone who’s emotionally secure, and one who’s not: ‘I was thinking about this – boys only want love if it’s torture and a constant chase. Men want love if it’s real, right, healthy and consistent. ” ‘Any girl who’s really thought a lot about romance and relationships and break-ups has determined that the male species has divided into two groups – and it’s boys and men. You can have a 40 year old boy and a 20 year old man – it depends on their emotional DNA.’ (

So, I think, boys want to feel chasing a girl? I don’t find it interesting. To be honest. I don’t like running. Can I just go swim? I don’t know how to make a man feel the chase. I’m actually not good at that. Also, I’m not good at being chased. It’s chaos for me. And I don’t even know how to torture guys. To be honest.

I just want to do the things that I love without being pressured of being in a relationship. I think this is the most healthy way that I can put this. I’ll just focus first on the things that I love and just wait, when the right guy comes along. I know God is not killjoy when it comes to relationships. I know He’s not. That’s how I put my faith now.

But right now, I just need to be in good shape. Eat healthy, have a healthy mind, exercise regularly and have my goals bullet-ed again. Have peace in my life. I’m not claiming to be perfect, but I know I can handle this crossroads that I’m facing right now.  I just need to be ME, with no pressures. 🙂

And to put this straight, I hope and pray that when the right time comes, I am not in a relationship with a boy but with a man. I hope I’ve learned from all the experiences that I had.